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Friday, September 26, 2008

I need a Facebook coach

I decided to take the plunge and put together my Facebook page-profile thingy yesterday and put up some pictures and WORDS and accept friend invitations and stuff.

However, what does one do when they are invited to be friends with their first real boyfriend?  Someone who has not spoken to you in YEARS and, in fact, the last memory you have of seeing him was, how you say... curt.  He was not my biggest fan.  And that was at least 5 years after the breakup. I am confused.

Of course, i accepted his invitation like a lady does, but now i feel like i should say something. 
Something less bitchy than, "Wow, didn't expect that from YOU of all people" yet something warmer than, "...'sup" matched with a head nod.

What's the etiquette here?  I'm new; i don't know how you communicate with people like this yet. 

And does one write on their wall or send an email?  I am so un-cool.  Help me.


  • I'm not on Facebook, but I am on MySpace (the Facebook for teenagers, a group of which I am not a part, but it seems like SO MUCH WORK to start a Facebook profile too so whatev, I'll stick with the teeny stuff) so I can talk a little bit about MySpace etiquette. Whenever someone invites me to be their friend on MySpace and I accept, I always wait for them to start the conversation. Usually it's something like, "Thanks for the add! How have you been all these years?" to which I can respond appropriately. (Oh, I am SUCH a dork.) All of this is to say, I would wait for him to start the conversation, see how he decides to approach it, and take his lead.

    (Seriously, what IS it with these social networking sites? Do they erase the past or something? It's like, "Hi, I never said two words to you in high school, but we simply HAVE to be MySpace/Facebook friends! Like, totally!")

    By Blogger Cassie, at 9/26/2008 2:47 PM  

  • Yes! Yes, that's it EXACTLY. It's like they ERASE THE PAST. What is up with that?

    Ok, i feel very comfortable letting him start the conversation if there is any. And if you're a dork, then i'm a dork, because i'm taking this way too seriously.

    By Blogger claire, at 9/26/2008 3:07 PM  

  • God. I JUST ran into this, and here's what I said:
    "Hey! Hope you're doing well."

    Yes, it's short, but it implies you were raised well enough to do things like acknowledge people who make (very small) gestures, and most importantly, does not invite a response.

    By Anonymous Beth, at 9/26/2008 4:23 PM  

  • I probably would have declined the invitation to begin with, but then I'm not big on interacting with people from the past. I want to know about them, I just don't want to talk to them.

    By Anonymous flurrious, at 9/28/2008 8:37 AM  

  • Sorry bunky...I may be on Facebook, but I am more of a myspace girl. I still can't figure out Facebook, and it runs SOOOOOOO slowly.

    By Blogger Orelinde_03, at 10/24/2008 3:18 PM  

  • Seeing as it's almost Hallowe'en, I thought I'd poke around the old haunted Claire place and see if there was anything here...

    (sounds of dripping water, slow decay, and the muffled screams of the damned/surpressed posts...)

    I'll take that as a "no."

    (running away)

    By Anonymous TwoBusy, at 10/29/2008 9:55 PM  

  • ...and this is yet another reason why I won't be joining Facebook.

    I just blogged about this last week. :)

    By Blogger 3carnations, at 11/25/2008 3:00 PM  

  • Claire: seriously -- you need to get back into this. If you can't use this forum as a place to vent your frustrations and/or bury them under mountains of sarcasm... well, truthfully, that's not even a question, because you can and you should.

    Go! Go! Go! Go, Claaaaaaire...

    (word verification: ballse)

    By Anonymous TwoBusy, at 12/10/2008 8:56 AM  

  • facebook is so god damn nosey!
    i absolutely hate how stalkerish it is.
    in other news your blog is oh so readable xo

    By Blogger novembre, at 1/30/2009 4:53 PM  

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